The love of children breaks the heart
and can crack it open to a million joyful miracles,
while also simultaneously leaving us
pulverized,
pulled in a million directions,
panting and exhausted
disheveled –
a shadow of a former self.
Here (in this tired place)
there is no Big Love –
just sloppy, chaotic, choppy love
smeared by crumbs and dirty socks
and utterly submerged in a divine,
huge
mess.
Meanwhile, the skin scrapes off again but no bandaid works.
Routine rules all moon phases
and the mother still picks up the pieces:
broken parts of toys, uneaten meals, and over-run schedules
absorbing the echo of too many sounds competing
for attention and time all at once.
Clamoring for air and rest, but when not finding it in sane places
she washes up on a shore of compost and left over muck from lifetimes
of unloved work.
You see, if we move in too many directions
(and especially without love)
there is no center at home –
and the whole society suffers:
Crying with madness for hearth and heart
but too often only finding the unhappy Mother
spread thin to the bone.
That is the difference this time: to be a woman relishing the gifts of freedom
but not being undone by it.
That must be the difference this time: to find the center,
to find love for and in the work,
to find rest in sane places,
coming back again and again as our own newly born versions of ourselves.
Beautifully written and shared. U bring tears to my eyes and heart with your eloquence and heartfelt feelings and total awareness of ‘motherhood’. I love you, dear daughter!😍
Sent from my iPad
>
Chuckle…..I have seen how you manage the household demands and, for the most part, you do it with grace and love. You are an amazing woman, mother, spouse and a most beloved daughter. Love you!!